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Counseling for Gender Concerns

(and internet counseling is an option now!)

Michele O'Mara, LCSW is a gender specialist, providing gender care to transgender men and women throughout the United States.  Her services are available online, as well as in her Indianapolis based office.  Michele is a great resource for anyone experiencing conflicts around their gender, as well as those who are clear about their truest internalized gender and simply need assistance in bringing your true gender to the surface.

 

As a gender specialist, Michele has worked with hundreds of transgender identified men and women over the last decade, and she has written over a hundred letters of referral for hormone replacement therapy (according to the Standards of Care), as well as 10 letters of referral for Gender Confirmation Surgery, and additional letters for chest reconstruction.  Services available for mtf, ftm, as well as those simply experiencing gender identity dysphoria.

 

Gender Services include:

 

    • Individual and Family Counseling
    • Gender clarification, diagnosis (if applicable), and exploration of options for making peace with your gender
    • Letter of referral for Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) based on SOC's
    • Letter of referral for Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) also known as Gender Reassignment Surgery (GRS) based on SOC's
    • Support through Real Life Experience (RLE) also known as Real Life Test (RLT)
    • Emotional and psychological support and assistance through the steps necessary for a gender transition
    • Monthly Gender Support Group

     

On-line sessions are also an option for out-of-town clients.

 

About Gender Identity Dysphoria

Gender dysphoria, which is also known as 'gender identity disorder' or (GID), is a medical diagnosis that describes an experience of anxiety, confusion, and discomfort about the discrepancy between one's biological sex, and one's self-defined gender identity which does not match their biological sex.

 

Gender confusion, and conflict may ebb and flow over the years, with some periods of time being more difficult than others.  Eventually, however, it will begin to permeate every aspect of life, causing increasing amounts of distress, confusion, and anxiety for the gender incongruent person. 

 

For diagnostic purposes, the mental health community relies on a manual commonly referred to as the DSM-IV, to classify someone as having Gender Identity Dysphoria (GID).  The primary criteria for this diagnosis are strong and persistent cross-gender identification.  This means the person wants to be, or is insistent they already belong to, the opposite sex.  A person must be persistently uncomfortable in their current gender role, and feel that it's not congruent with their physical self.  This diagnosis will not fit if a person is motivated to transition for the purposes of experiencing a cultural advantage of the other sex. Likewise, the diagnosis is not appropriate for someone with intersex conditions.  There has to be evidence of clinically significant distress, or damage to important aspects of the person's life to diagnose gender identity disorder. 

 

Gender dysphoria is an overwhelming and widely misunderstood condition that causes significant distress for those experiencing these conflicts.  It is common for gender dysphoric men and women to develop anxiety and depression.  The longer these issues go un-addressed, the more severe the conflicts can become.  Many people make choices to affirm their biological sex by over-compensating for their gender identification with the other sex.  Men may go to extremes to prove their masculinity, including marriage and fatherhood, and biological women may also go to extremes  to prove their femininity.  

 

Transsexualism can be defined as incongruence between the biological sexual differentiation and the gender identity.  In a nutshell, a man or woman who experiences the feeling that they have the mind of one gender and the body of another.  The intensity of conflict for a transsexual is such that relief can only be experienced by changing their body to match their mind.

 

Transitioning one's gender role typically involves a regimen of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), which may or may not be followed by Sexual Reassignment Surgery (SRS) depending on how a person defines their own gender.   Some men and women are able to find relief for their gender-incongruence by changing their physical self enough to be perceived by the world in the gender that is most true for them, regardless of the genitals they have.  Others, despite the private nature of what one's genitals are, feel persistently uncomfortable until their entire physical self, genitals and all, match their gender identification. 

 

There are no studies, currently, that reflect an accurate representation of the percentage of people who experience gender dysphoria.  Because of the highly-stigmatized, often shame-based nature of this condition, it is common for those with gender issues to censor and conceal their feelings, thus compromising our ability to know how many people are experiencing this pain.

 

If you would like to work with Michele O'Mara, LCSW to find relief from your gender conflicts, you are welcome to schedule an appointment (for internet based, or in-office sessions) directly from the internet on her on-line scheduler.

 

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Scheduling online sessions is easy:

1. Visit my online scheduler and pick a time (which is in Eastern Standard Time zone) that you would like to meet with me.

 

2.  Once you've scheduled, add my contact info to your Skype address book (I will not confirm your Skype address until you've scheduled). 

 

 My Skype address is  michele.omara

 

3.  Await confirmation from me.  I will email you with the details about our upcoming session.

 

4.  Payment options include Paypal, Visa/MC, or you can mail me a check or money order in advance of our session.

 

5. 45 minute sessions are $90, 60 minute sessions are $115, 90 minute sessions are $175

 



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